Who doesn’t want to make more friends?
I have heard people talk about the quota of friends one person can have. I do not doubt there is a number for everyone. Obviously some will be higher then others, but realistically you can handle having several friends at one time.
This post is not about how true friends someone can have, what is a best friend, or if guys and girls can be best friends (though my thoughts are here on that). This post is simple one idea that I believe can help you make more friends.
Start by asking people their name.
Ya, it is that simple, at least the surface. In reality, it is a very hard thing to do. And if that is not enough for you, take it another step by remembering their names next time you see them. This will be the one thing that cuts through anything else you can do, remembering someones name.
There is a barista at a favorite coffee shop of mine that decided to do this. One day I came in to get a cup of coffee and as I was paying she just asked me “What is your name?” That one simple question tore down the barrier of non communication and allowed us to start developing a friendship. Not only did this make me interested to tell my name but to also follow it up with asking their name. That happened two months ago, now we talk for about ten to fifteen minutes every morning I come in for coffee and we have started a friendship. All because someone asked me my name.
You want to make more friends, start asking people their names.
Simon Sinek has an amazing talk on common bonds between people that is well worth your time today: